Étiquette : sex

  • Sex and Lies review: testimonies from women in Morocco

    Tags : Morocco, sex, sexual turism, prostitution, women, Leïla Slimani,

    Leila Slimani bravely portrays accounts of extra-marital sex punishable by law

    What did it take for a book like Sex and Lies to get to me? First, its author had to be born. (That’s obvious, but let’s start there.) Leïla Slimani was born in Morocco. She grew up in Rabat and was raised Muslim. At 17, she moved to Paris to study political science, then worked as a journalist with Jeune Afrique. Sex and Lies is not a memoir, but Slimani’s autobiographical details are noteworthy; who she is, recording this story.

    Next, she had to become a writer. This is relevant in terms of craft, but also because it was on a tour for her book, Adèle, that Sex and Lies began to take form. Women came to her. They told her their stories. “Novels have a magical way of forging a very intimate connection between writers and their readers, of toppling the barriers of shame and mistrust,” she notes.

    Sex and Lies comprises testimonies from mostly women about their experience of sex in Morocco where extra-marital sex is punishable by law. To write this book, Slimani had to be, by some measures, brave. Not the kind of brave that jumps in front of a bullet, but something more subtle and galvanising. Provocative might be the word. Her Prix Goncourt-winning book, Lullaby, is about a nanny who kills a child. Adèle is a subversive portrait of a female sex addict. Were her work not so transgressive, Slimani’s housekeeper might not have stopped her and said: “I know what your book is about”, then struck up a conversation about prostitution, consent and the things that happen to women in her small neighbourhood in Morocco. There is power in words – especially dirty words – it seems.

    ‘Death warrant’

    The women who share their stories here are the truly brave ones, though, and Slimani reminds us “quite how difficult it is, in a country like Morocco, to step out of line”.

    An unhappily married woman who “signs [her] own death warrant” for a moment of forbidden love; a woman who tries to live a sexually free life, yet still allows a man she is seeing to believe she is a virgin; a woman who is forced to leave her children with a violent ex-husband: the stories give a wide-ranging insight into the consequences of oppression. The aim seems to be to bring to European eyes the nuance and subtleties behind a culture that might seem hard to fathom.

    Yet Irish eyes will easily recognise sentences like: “Do what you like, but do it in private” or “Everyone knows it – but no one will acknowledge or confront it”, as well as stories of women facing criminal charges for having abortions, stories of babies found abandoned, and even the almost throwaway sentence “not to mention the corpses found in public bins”. I thought of Caelainn Hogan’s recent book, Republic of Shame as I read, and I thought of reports in these pages by Rosita Boland and others. It did not feel far from home. What the book demonstrates so clearly are the ways in which women’s bodies are the battleground for colonial and cultural tensions. If Morocco’s objective is to differentiate itself from the West as Ireland once wished to differentiate itself from Britain, by imposing a brutal sort of morality, it is the women who suffer.

    Slimani’s lens

    “What I want is to render these women’s words directly, as they were spoken to me,” Slimani professes. Yet these words passed through Arabic, French and now English, as translated by Sophie Lewis, before they reached me. And they passed through Slimani’s lens. The testimonies are interlaced with her own reflections. She recounts losing her virginity as a teenager. “[E]veryone I knew could be split into two groups: those who were doing it and those who weren’t.” It almost sounds like an American high school. However, “[T]he choice, for us, cannot be compared to that made by young women in the West because in Morocco it is tantamount to a political statement […]By losing her virginity, a woman automatically tips over into criminality.”

    In many ways Slimani represents both sides: Europe, Morocco. But she also acknowledges her distance: “I left Morocco more than 15 years ago. With the years and the distance, I have surely forgotten quite how difficult it is to live without the freedoms that have become so natural to me.”

    It’s risky to jump in and pretend to understand – “both” can easily become “neither” when it comes to identity – but risk is Slimani’s middle name. She is teaching us to be intersectional feminists, which is a fancy way of saying your empathy should reach past your own self-interest to the interest of those who are different to you. And if you’re really free, then exercising that freedom is no risk at all.

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  • Sex, Drugs, Jazz and the Man Who Ruled Morocco

    Sex, Drugs, Jazz and the Man Who Ruled Morocco

    Morocco, sex, drugs, Thami El Glaoui,

    OF ALL THE OLD PALACES…
    Hidden inside the high Atlas Mountains of Morocco sits a kasbah largely left to nature’s whims. But it was once the over-the-top home of the country’s now-hated ruler.

    Liza Foreman

    Jean-Denis Joubert/Gamma-Rapho via Getty
    TELOUET, Morocco—Not so long ago, Morocco was all about sex, drugs and jazz. And the man in charge, T’hami El Glaoui, the pasha of Marrakesh from 1912 to 1956 and rumored to be the richest man in the world, ran a prostitution racket so large that the 27,000 hookers operating in Marrakesh represented a reported 10 percent of the population. “Putting them (this clan) in charge was like letting the Mafia run Las Vegas,” Vanity Fair said in a 2015 article—although he did, apparently, love jazz.

    That was then. This is now.

    It took me a good dozen trips to Morocco to finally reach the fabled Kasbah of Telouet, the Glaoui family residence that was designed to be the most beautiful palace in the world. It was said to boast the finest Islamic architecture in Morocco. El Glaoui apparently decorated it using some of his pimping cash.

    Not everyone makes it to the kasbah but anyone in Morocco should try before it crumbles to dust.

    The kasbah is hidden inside the high Atlas Mountains of Morocco. It presided over the old caravan route to the Sahara that the Glaoui clan oversaw. Along this route, precious goods like gold and ivory were transported from the south to the rulers in the north. It was big money for El Glaoui who leveraged his position here and the fact that he was in charge of the Berbers in the local mountains that the French could not control to become the Pasha of Marrakesh under French rule during that period. He was both loathed for betraying his people and for the lavish parties entertaining important out-of-towners in style here in the palace. As a result, his palace has largely been left to rot.

    It was for no reason, other than the fact that I had given up California for Europe and was looking for a place to stay warm in winter that I found myself in Morocco, repeatedly, writing a book about his people, the Berbers—some of whom El Glaoui famously shopped in exchange for the Pasha title, bestowed upon him by the French.

    Starting a few years ago now, I found myself traversing the old caravan route, over which his clan presided, regularly, before I finally reached the crumbling Kasbah. It is said 1,000 workers and 300 artisans worked on it, no less. But it’s a case of catch it while you can. And it is quite a trip to get there along the old caravan route which cuts through the majestic peaks of the Atlas Mountains, winding its way from the inviting red walls that surround Morocco’s beating heart—Marrakesh—through to the glistening sand dunes of the Sahara in the south. Its now-paved road cuts through rippling hills and mountain peaks dotted in intermittent green foliage.

    The French stamped out the caravan routes when they ruled Morocco, in the first half of the 20th century. It is no longer as charming, as it sounded back then. But not everything has changed. On the day that I went there, donkeys trotted along shabby tracks by the roadside. Washing fluttered outside half-built houses, selling terracotta pots and hand woven carpets imbued with local symbolism, woven in wool and silk. Men in traditional djellaba robes board battered buses that ferried workers back and forth.

    One passes pit stops featuring makeshift stands, placed outside barren cafes, grilling shavings of raw meat cut from the carcasses dangling in the wind. It is a far cry from the El Glaoui glory days here.

    The site of legendary soirées, attended by the global glitterati, and the closest thing Morocco has ever had to Hearst Castle, the OTT California residence of the newspaper magnate William Randolph Hearst, the Kasbah beckoned from its perch on a hilltop hidden between those shivering mountains. From there, its owners, the El Glaoui warlords, had ruled over this important trading route.

    The current kasbah was built in the 1860s, on the site of an existing one. It was lavishly re-decorated in the early 20th century when 300 workers spent three years on the ceilings and walls. Some of this was recently restored.

    On several of those trips, I had passed by North Africa’s highest peak, Mount Toubkal, in complete ignorance of the Kasbah’s existence. But sitting a couple of years ago, in Dar Khalifa, the Casablanca mansion made famous by owner Tahir Shah’s best-selling book, The Caliph’s House, it was drawn to my attention.

    “Haven’t you seen it?” he asked.

    Soon it grabbed my imagination, and in a novel that I subsequently wrote in his garden, a plot unfolded in my mind which reached its climax at this legendary Kasbah that I had yet to see.

    It was clear I had to go there before it crumbled into the dust. Shah had mentioned to me that, slowly, it had been falling into the ground. It’s myriad of rooms were disappearing as time went on.

    The Kasbah was one of several hang-outs where El Glaoui liked to entertain important visitors. But it was very much an upstairs, downstairs kind of place. While guests partied upstairs, its dungeons were filled with traitors whose heads were often hung from the doors, as legend has it. Some of which still stand.

    El Glaoui was so reviled by the people that, upon his death, his associates were hunted and burned. His property was confiscated and given to the government. That government has left his most fabled Kasbah to rot.

    From the outside today, the Kasbah looks like a haunted house from a Disney film. Room upon room has fallen away, since it was all but abandoned in 1956. Jagged walls and piles of rubble, now roamed upon by donkeys and local children, stand in stark contrast to a half-dozen rooms that stand in their original splendor, at the heart of this eerie complex.

    I had finally determined to see it and driven from Marrakech in a taxi. What was a $100 fare for a day’s drive? Two guards stood outside and levied a small fee when I arrived, but I was otherwise alone. I paid next to nothing for the privilege of venturing beyond the intricately woven doors to have what remains of the Kasbah to myself, for several hours that afternoon.

    Hardly anyone, these days, ventures beyond the main caravan route to drive out to the ruins. It takes about an hour from the main road along a bumpy track. I was scared, as I clambered up broken staircases, and passed through long, empty corridors, before I reached this inner sanctum.

    A bird darted from the roof. It flew out through a half-broken window that revealed a scene of pastoral bliss basked in sunshine.

    I inspected the former harem, a long, dark subdued space next to the master bedroom. I marveled at the intricacy of the woodwork, the rippling arches in marble, the heavily carved doors that lead through this series of inner chambers. The fabled tiles. I spent time inspecting the deep colors of the walls, before settling on the window ledge, with the sun warming my back, as I wrote. I tried to imagine what had gone on in here back in the day.

    My driver wandered in a couple of hours later, and broke the silence. The spell of being alone inside this ominous space. It was a slice of his history that he was discovering for the first time. The lair of a man that had betrayed his people. It wasn’t a memory that he or the government was keen to preserve.

    But now I carried it forward, as the setting for a fictitious scene in a novel in which a French reporter is murdered uncovering the ancient lore of the Berbers, some of whom El Glaoui helped bury in history from this very spot.

    But it’s a case of catch it while you can.
    The Daily Beast, 30 avr 2019

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